Sexlessness is an issue that has not been focused on enough much. Having sex and making offspring is the ultimate purpose of life from a biological point of view for all living things on earth. So sexlessness is denial of the reason of our existence. Japan is the most sexless country in the world, and even Elon Musk is concerned about the future existence of Japan.
Although the younger generations of the West have been aware of the sexlessness issue, the older generations were not aware of the issue until recently. When the older generations noticed about Japan's sexlessness, they enjoyed the narrative that Japanese people were wired and perverted. They recently realized their kids also had the same problem.
By Kate Julian The Atlantic DECEMBER 2018 ISSUE
Early on, most Western accounts of all this had a heavy subtext of “Isn’t Japan wacky?” This tone has slowly given way to a realization that the country’s experience might be less a curiosity than a cautionary tale.
This essay is an introduction of my theory, which is that the reason Japan became the most sexless country in the world is because of post-war feminism. Contrary to the common belief, Japan was historically a feminist country. Western way of respecting women and Asian way of that are different, but when Japan lost World War II, the Western conquerors didn't know such a cultural difference and gave more power to women, and Japan became an ultra feminist country. Japanese fathers lost authority at home, and the boys became unable to grow mature. They lost hope on love and making family and escaped to anime, and Japan became a sexless country.
You probably cannot believe my saying that Japan is a ultra feminist country because Japan is thought to be a highly patriarchal and male-dominated society. According to Global Gender Gap Report 2020, Japan ranks 121st in gender equality among 153 countries. East and West, however, have different cultures. Placed in lower rank in Western index doesn't mean Japanese women don't have power. Japanese women used to have more freedom than Western women had, and I can prove it from historical documents.
The earliest Western visitors to Japan were 16th century missionaries, and Portuguese missionary Luís Fróis was one of them. He wrote home about how free and entitled Japanese women were compared to their Western counterparts. Here are some excerpts from his report.
'In Europe, the seclusion of daughters and maidens is important and rigorous; in Japan, daughters go out for the whole day, or many, wherever they want to, without telling their parents'
'In Europe, the supreme honor and treasure of young women is their chastity and the preservation of their purity; in Japan, women never worry about their virginity. Without it, they lose neither their honor nor the opportunity to wed.'
'Women in Europe never leave the house without their husband's permission; in Japan the women are free to go where they please without their husbands' knowledge'
'In accordance with corrupt nature, it is men in Europe who repudiate women; in Japan it is often the woman who repudiates the man.'
'In Europe, property is held in common by husband and wife; in Japan, each owns his or her own, and sometimes the woman lends hers to her husband at exorbitant rates of interest'
Japanese women were far more free than European women at that time. The history of the West is a history of war, and Westerners used to have the idea that women were trophies and possessions. European women were protected by men, but it was not because they were respected but because they were the property of men. Wartime in Japanese history is short, and people in Japan didn't have an idea of considering women as war trophy.
I can show you another historical document that proves how feminist country Japan was. Etsuko Sugimoto was born as a daughter of high-ranking samurai official and later became best-selling author of America in 1925. In her book, A Daughter of the Samurai, she was both surprised and saddened to see how financially crippled American women used to be compared to Japanese women. If you think the quote is too long, just read the bolded part.
A Daughter of the Samurai by Etsu Inagaki Sugimoto
One thing in America, to which I could not grow accustomed, was the joking attitude in regard to women and money. From men and women of all classes, from newspapers, novels, lecturers, and once even from the pulpit, I heard allusions to amusing stories of women secreting money in odd places, coaxing it from their husbands, borrowing it from a friend, or saving it secretly for some private purpose. There was never anything dishonorable implied in this. Perhaps the money was saved to get new curtains for the parlour, or even a birthday present for the husband. These jokes were a puzzle to me — and a constantly growing one; for as time passed on, I myself saw things which made me realize that probably a foundation of serious truth might lie beneath some of the amusing stories.
Our suburb was small and we were all interested in each other's affairs so I was acquainted with almost everybody. I knew the ladies to be women of education and culture yet there seemed to be among them a universal and openly confessed lack of responsibility about money. They all dressed well and seemed to have money for specific purposes, but no open purse to use with free and responsible judgment. Once, at a church fair, where I had a table, several ladies, after walking around the hall and examining the various booths, had bought some small, cheap articles, but left the expensive ones, saying, "My husband will be here later on and l get him to buy it,” or "When the gentlemen come those high-priced things will sell.” I had never known a Japanese man to buy anything for his home, or be expected to.
Once, when I was shopping with a friend, she stopped at her husband’s office to ask him for money. I thought that was strange enough, but a still more curious thing happened when I went with Mother to a meeting of the church ladies where they were raising a certain amount for some unusual purpose. The Ladies' Aid had recently made a great many calls on the husbands' purses, and so this time each member had pledged herself to bring five dollars which she must obtain without asking her husband for it. The meeting I attended was the one where the money was handed in, each lady telling as she gave it, how she had succeeded in getting her five dollars. Most had saved it in various ways a little at a time. One said that she had made a real sacrifice and returned to her milliner a new hat—paid for, but not worn—receiving in exchange one that was five dollars less in price. Another had sold two theatre tickets which had been given her. Still another told in very witty rhyme, how she, a poor Ladies’Aid lady, had spent most of her leisure time for a week, and had pledged herself for a week longer, in darning stockings for the children of her neighbour, a rich non-Ladies’Aid lady.
The meeting was intensely interesting. It reminded me of our poem-making parties, only of course this was gayer and these stories were on an undignified subject. I enjoyed it all until a pretty, bright, and beautifully dressed woman rose and said that she didn’t know how to save money and she didn’t know how to earn it. She had promised not to cheat in her charge account at the store, and she had promised not to ask her husband for the five dollars, so she had done the only thing that was left for her to do she had stolen it from her husband's pocket when he was asleep.
This report caused a great deal of merriment, but I was saddened. All the reports seemed tragic after she said, “That was the only thing left to do.” It seemed incredible, here in America, where women are free and commanding, that a woman of dignity and culture, the mistress of a home, the mother of children, should be forced either to ask her husband for money, or be placed in a humiliating position.
When I left home, Japan, at large, was still following the old custom of educating a girl to be responsible for the well-being of her entire family — husband included. The husband was the lord of the family; but the wife was mistress of the home and, according to her own judgment, controlled all its expenses— the house, the food, the children’s clothing and education; all social and charitable responsibilities, and her own dress, the material and style of which were expected to conform to her husband’s position.
Where did she get the money? The husband’s income was for his family, and his wife was the banker. When he wanted money for himself he asked her for it, and it was her pride to manage so that she could allow him the amount suitable for a man of his standing
A Japanese woman of 100 years ago thought free and commanding American were in a humiliating position when it came to money. Some of you may think Japan has changed and became male dominant in the last 100 years, but it's not the case. Japan hasn't changed. Japanese women still have power over money at home, and it is(or was) common in Japan a husbands gives his wife all of his salary and receive an allowance from her.
East and West have different approach toward respecting women. Western feminism tries to treat men and women equally both in society and at home. Japanese feminism tries to give men all power in society and give women all power at home, but when Japan lost World War II, Western conquerors didn't know such cultural difference and tried to liberate helpless women of color from indigenous male domination.
It was within this context of the American project to civilize and democratize a racially inferior other that Japanese women as gendered subjects emerged as centrally important figures. Seen by the occupation authorities as victims for centuries of "Oriental male chauvinism," Japanese women embodied feudal tradition, backwardness, and lack of civilization. As helpless women of color, they became ideal candidates for American salvation and emancipation. The occupier's zeal for liberation of Japanese women from indigenous male domination was all-consuming and multifaceted.
According to Pharr, the occupation was “the world's most radical experiment with women's rights” that resulted in successful “feminist reform”
A Daughter of the Samurai was published in 1925, in which the author pitied American women for not having financial capability and literacy, and 20 years later American men conquered Japan and conducted “the world's most radical experiment with women's rights”. It's not too hard to imagine Japan became an ultra feminist country.
The father's authority was wiped out in Japan. In other words, Japan became a fatherless country. The father has two major roles in the child's mental development. The one is protecting the child from toxic or codependent or overprotecting mother. The other is teaching the child social skills. Because the father's authority was denied, it became difficult for Japanese boys to grow out of mother's protection. They stayed immature, and some of them became hikikomori(acute social withdrawal). The Japanese government says the number of hikikomori in Japan is 2% of working age, but the real number could be 9%.
A little bit about my background. I was a professional otaku market analyzer. An American hapa singer I scouted for Japanese otakus became the number one idol of 2007 in Japan so I am an expert on this area. Otaku is Japanese geek or incel. They are immature and love anime. Many of them have the fatherless issue. If you watch Japanese anime, you will notice something in common, which is absence of father. 4chan is the world's largest anonymous bulletin board, which was created for posting images of Japanese anime. 4chan users call each other "faggot". Gay men are far more likely to have had a defective relationship with the father. I think 4chan users are calling each other "fatherless" indirectly.
According a recent survey by the Japanese government, 40% of single males of 20s have no experience of dating and 45% of males under 24 years old are still virgin. In order for a man to ask a woman out, he needs to have confidence in himself, but a man who grew up in fatherless situation cannot have such confidence. He has no role model to look up to. Sexlessness among couples is also high in Japan. According to the Global Sex Survey by Durex, Japanese people's frequency of sex is the lowest in the world and only 46 times a year(the average is 103 times a year).
Because I am not going to turn this page into a thesis, I finish here, but I will continue writing on this theory. I am satisfied for now if you thought my theory has enough historical background.